Saturday, July 7, 2018

Dealing with grief

How to Discourage a Grieving Friend by Vaneetha Rendall Risner.

When we analyze grieving people, we add to their burden. Everyone processes loss differently, whether they are grieving the loss of a loved one, loss of health, lost relationships, or even lost dreams. Offering suggestions can feel like judgment, and careless words can cut deeply. We can become like Job’s comforters, who went on and on, speaking about things they neither knew nor understood.

She ends with this:

It’s easy to discourage a struggling friend. Trust me, I know. But I’m challenging you, me, all of us, to put down our expectations of our suffering friends. Let’s stop trying to “fix” them. Don’t bludgeon them with theology. Trust that God is working in them, and be patient while they process.

Instead, let’s sit with our friends. Cry with them. Support them as they grieve. They need grace to heal. Remember, we don’t need to be a savior for our grieving friends. They already have One — and so do we.



Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hugs, Lance. Praying you will be encouraged instead of bludgeoned. Hope I haven't been Eliphaz/Bildad/Zophar to you. -s

Sun Jul 08, 10:36:00 PM GMT+8  
Blogger Lance said...

Thanks so much, Ate! Of course not.

Thu Jul 26, 05:16:00 AM GMT+8  

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